From Iced Out to a 30-minute Deep Convo with your Police + Veteran Husband in just 3 days
My Individual Coaching client went from her police and veteran husband not talking to her and the kids, hiding away in his man cave alone after responding to multiple child victim fatality calls at work TO having a 30-minute conversation with her while they went for a walk together and then gave her a break while he got their kids ready for a competition. This shift happened in just 3 days.
My client, a police wife of 10+ years, and working mom was feeling iced out of her relationship. Her partner had experienced a string of traumatic events and not feeling like he helped victims. She made it mean “he was shutting me out” and hiding out in his man cave had something to do with her.
Here’s the shift she made the changed everything.
You’ve been there where you feel like there’s something he’s not telling you.
My client had been pushing her husband to talk, but she was ready to try something new. When I proposed my 30 Day Gratitude Challenge, she started it right away. This Challenge would help her to relax and release tension between her and her husband.
I also suggested that she ask her husband directly, “How can I support you?” She hadn’t done that yet. She had assumed that talking would help him, but that’s actually what she would have needed. It’s not necessarily what her husband needed.
Often we think that listening to our partner about the traumatic event is what they need, but it’s important to ask them directly how we can support them and then listen.
Just 3 days after starting the 30 Day Gratitude Challenge, she saw a change. She began seeing all of the things her partner did for her in just one day off together that they shared. She shared her gratitude statements with her partner and he felt seen. This combined with her asking him how she could support him brought him closer to her, which is what she desired in the first place.
You feeling deeply connected to your partner is on the other side of you releasing the pressure and meeting them where they are.
You release pressure by recognizing all the ways they are already opening up to you and being there for you.
You meet them where they are by asking them how you can support them and not placing your method of healing onto them.
This is what’s possible for you inside my Individual Coaching program.